Because I say so...

And don't let your troubled teen suck you into justifying or defend your decision as Top Horse. "Because I say so" is one important way being the parent translates into everyday living. As the parent it is your right to end the arguing or discussion with, "Because I say so."

Teens will embroil you into arguing and justifying your decisions. This is another way they manipulate you to get their way. Don't let them keep sucking you into this. You do NOT, and I want to repeat very firmly, NOT have to justify your decisions to them. In the end, and from the very beginning, you are the parent--YOU-- and not your teen, is in charge.

Nor do you have to explain yourself.

If somehow your teen has managed to snatch the reigns of control from your hands, isn't it time to take them back? If she too often comes out as Top Horse, isn't it about time we brought an end to that?

We will get to the Solution-Focused answer to that question in the Parental Empowerment section. The answer in large part depends on the family dynamics, what exactly is going on, and the underlying causes. It is often a complicated answer with each family situation requiring unique solutions. What we are doing here is laying the foundation for your family's solution. So continue your reading... 9. Accountability

Parenting Basics Index:

Top Horse: Who's the Parent?
Walk Your Talk
Consistency
Co-Parenting
Divorced or Separated Co-Parenting
Single Parenting
Assertiveness
Feeling Safe
Because I Say So
Accountability
Communication: basic listening skills
Communication: non-verbals
Being Real and Authentic