In a recent conversation
with one of our "huggie" parishioners, I was reminded of this. She has
spent a lot of time in Egypt where the culture is VERY huggie--to the
point of ignoring what most Westerners would consider "personal
boundaries". She also works with children and teens. Her comment that
started our discussion was about how sometimes she wants so badly just
to hug them because she knew that was really what they need--even her
17 year olds.
My wife is a middle school teacher. Her kids
sometimes refer to her as Mom or Mama Yardley (my grandmother's name).
Even her Principal has referred to her as Mama Yardley. So many time we
have discussed how badly some her kids just need to be hugged.
I
am a mental health therapist, and many times I have had the same
feelings about some of my clients. Sometimes these clients do not give
me an option.
All three of us are in
helping professions--and all three of us are essentially forbidden from
hugging our kids or clients. My professional insurance company goes into
cardiac arrest if they thought I might dare even touch a client.
I grew
up in a non-huggie family, relatively speaking. I love hugs, both
getting and receiving them. Because of my upbringing, I often find
myself hesitating to give them. I have to consciously work to
overcome my early childhood and our culture's restrictions,
Dannion Brinkley Hugs
Several years ago I had a chance to meet author, Dannion Brinkley (to
see my article on our meeting, click
here).
Dannion is a real huggie guy. Dannion is not a timid hugger.
He is
a big bear hugger. His bugs are big and long. We talked about it once.
He
said from his near death experiences (yes, he has had more than one),
he wants to give all the hugs he can because he learned he will get to
re-experience all of them. He will get them all back when he dies. He
is looking forward to them.
Psychobiology of hugs (and touching)
The
science indicates that hugs and touch are a basic human need. Well,
more technically, touch is. I'm taking liberty here to extend touch to
hugs from my own personal experiences, not the science.
The Twin Sisters
From Reader's Digest,
May 1955, pp 155-156. A true story.
Two
sisters were born prematurely. The twins were immediately placed in
separate incubators.The weaker of the two was not expected to live. A
sympathetic nurse watched as the weaker twin continued to decline,
slipping ever closer to death. Defying hospital rules and physicians
instructions late one night and following her intuition, she placed the
two twins together. The healthy twin threw her small arm over her
sickly sister. The smaller twins heart beat began to quickly stabilized
and her
vital signs took a U-turn and started coming up. The two sisters grew
up healthy, thriving together.
Failure-to-Thrive Syndrome
This
story is an example of what has become known as the "failure-to-
thrive"
syndrome. Also called psychosocial
dwarfism, it has been known for some time for human infant
orphans that have been institutionalized without the normal amount of
touch, even when warmth, food, and care are provided (Gardner, 1972).
When pediatric nurses supplied the missing touch (tender and loving),
the babies' growth pattern returned to normal within hours. (See Rossi,
2002, pp 15-17).
This syndrome has also been observed in homes by social workers where
homes were psychosocially inadequate. These babies were found to have
low levels of growth hormone.
The importance of touch has been studied and noted in other
mammals, including, other primates, mice, rats, puppies, and kittens.
In rat pups, stroking with a soft brush was sufficient to permit normal
growth.
Gene Expression and Touch
It has been found that touch activates the expression of the c-myc and max genes, which in
turn activate the Odc
(ornithine decarboxylase) gene. Turning on the Odc gene in turn
leads to the synthesis of proteins that contribute to cellular growth
and maturation. Even short terms of separation of infant and
mother can cause a decrease in these genes and their proteins.
These studies pertain to developing infants. What about adults? Does
touch stimulate a similar or related response in adults? An Internet
search did not bring up any research studies to this effect. It is
difficult to do such studies because the responding tissues cannot be
readily sampled. It is one thing to grind up or dissect rats, another
to do such on humans. My educated guess (hypothesis) is that a whole
series of genes in adults respond to touch--and especially hugs.
References
Gardner, L. 1972. Deprivation dwarfism.
Scientific American 227: 76-82.